Category Archives: Personal time

A few moments of personal time…

There are so many things I think about when I am out walking that I would love to share – then I get home and get busy.  <sigh>

Last Friday morning, I had a great morning walk – the first in weeks that really felt like I was almost back on track with them.  As the days get shorter, I, like many others, am directly affected and wish to spend much more time in bed than I probably should.  So sleeping in until the clocks finally changed was becoming a dangerous norm.  Now that I’ve got sunlight to awaken me again, my morning walks have a chance at resuming at their prescribed early hour, so that I can get the walk in before too much traffic hits the streets and makes it noisy and too unfun!

As I was on my walk last Friday morning, I felt so compelled to share my little journey through the ups and downs, the busy times and making time for me/ hubby/ and how my life gets a bit crazy if I neglect these important aspects.  There was flowery language, deep thoughts and all kinds of impact filled revelations that were going to be expressed. Then I came home and began sewing and just didn’t do it.

Friday evening rolled around and I was able to head out to a great gig and then a post gig visit with friends that was late, but very enjoyable.

That started a weekend of busy moments bookended by enjoyable social time.

Saturday evening took me to City Hall for a lovely event that went very well, until I realized during my finale performance, my static treatment was inadequate, my system of attachment was not functioning properly and I became a broken winged butterfly for the last half of my song.

Will link up to Eurika’s pics here when she uploads them!

I did my best to recover from it, but moments like that can be so disappointing and full of self recrimination – should haves and would haves that really only help in the “hindsight is 20/20” department.  At least I had great company and we continued on to support a friend at another social event that was a lot of fun.

Sunday took us to Montreal. Family visits with the in-laws are always an adventure, and being there to celebrate my father-in-law’s birthday was great.  The live fish being cooked and served to us was a new concept for me, and one I really have to think about in the future { filed under: things that make me consider going vegetarian for real}.  The drive back was punctuated by a quick stop off the highway to deliver a client’s bag of goodies that made her life and mine much easier, and it gave me a quick break from the headlights in the rearview.

Then Fortune smiled and provided a parking space directly in front of our favourite Shawarma place on Dalhousie and @wtl was able to pop in to get us some much needed Lebanese food to round out the international fare of the day – we started with good ole Canadian food { Tim Horton’s}! And Scott Pilgrim Versus the World entertained us as we wound down after a fairly busy weekend.

Thus today = taking time off for me.  I needed my hair trimmed- done.  I wanted to simply write a bit of personal journey stuff – doing that now. I also wanted to do some retile therapy – about to head off to do that shortly as I go pick up some shirts for @wtl.

And I am glad to be able to take some time for me – I love my friends and family, but really do need that quiet time to recharge and take a break from it all.  And when I don’t, I suffer for it – which means those around me suffer for it.

So, a few more hours of me time, then off to teach classes tonight – choreographies are pretty much done, but I need to video tape them for the learning process and then we talk costumes.  Tomorrow night = classes and then a gig.  Next weekend = more gigs and a craft sale.  Each weekend has something booked or the potential of something to be booked.

Monday’s will once again be my time off methinks, making Monday a good day.

What I did on my Summer Vacation…

Amy, Felicia and ME!

… Or why I love September….

So, this is one photo from our August holiday – if you click on it, you can see many more and check out our Algonquin photos as well in my hubby, WTL’s sets.

I am a very lucky person.  I have a great husband, I am self-employed doing jobs that i love, and while I still have things to work on [ don’t we all?], I really like where I am in my life and will stop gushing now!

This summer’s holiday adventures included a lot of nooks coming up to join us on our camping trip – and it was so cool.  Each person brought a different element of experience, learning, joy and smiles – and maybe a bit of eyeball exercise – as we all took some time to get to know each other a bit better in a new space and time.

So thanks to all of you for joining us and adding such great memories to our trip.  While @wtl did not post pics of you all, we do have them in our person collections and will treasure those moments!

the list: Mark, Gail, Ramanda and Justin [ on their own site], Kristina and Gabriel, Susi and Chris, Jocelyne, Gailene, Ginny, Glen, Matt and Warren[ on their own site], Alex, Julie and Richard, Megan and Dan – Hope I did not miss anyone!

Thanks to all who so kindly brought us little tokens – be it drinkies, goodies, snackies etc. – all of your generous contributions/ gifts were most appreciated!

We had a wonderful time on our own as well, as we both really needed that down time to relax, sleep, read, walk, canoe, relax, sleep etc.

Once we got back into Ottawa for a couple of days, we really only had time to sort through things, do some laundry and then pack for Fan Expo.  And another great weekend of adventure began with an early morning train ride with @suzemuse and @G_Reg to Toronto!  It was fun meeting the other group at the back of the train – those young pups who had some great knowledge and appreciation of the oldies as well as the new stuff in sci-fi, comics etc.  Claire, Krystin, James? and pink haired girl with the knitting were all great fun to chat with. and to share my baking with!  Recipes later for the vegan oatmeal cookies!

I had a great time meeting so many new people and running into Ottawa folks there – even if it was only for a few minutes in line at the hotel!  And next year we’ll bring more Ottawa folk out to have some fun!

While this post is pretty superficial, suffice it to say that I really appreciate and am grateful for the blessings of August – they always get me good and ready to start my own personal new year in September.

Going back to school is a perpetual part of my life – September always brings on the new round of work/classes[ since I teach now]/and begins a fresh start, especially as the weather starts to cool off – not today I know with this heat wave – but soon!

I am really looking forward to what this season will bring as I begin my new bellywood classes, ramp up my regular belly dance classes and then teach some sewing in October!  and the Dancer’s bazaar return in October as well, only weeks away so much to do for that as well!

I have lots of prep to do over the next few weeks and tonight’s demo will be my first actual sharing of the bellywood stuff, so I hope those who come out will be kind 😉

An hour from now, I’ll meet with my first appointment of the fall, and I still have info to put online and more promo/ marketing work to do for the many things coming up, so I’ll sign off and wish you all a happy First day of September!

T/H

“holiday”- “vacation”… Whatever!

@wtl, my DH, has often said something along the lines of when we take a break, it’s for resting, not doing.  And I think he even broke down the differences in his  own personal views of  the terms, “holiday” and “vacation” – but I couldn’t find it easily on his blog, so I’ll just ramble on with my own thoughts!  He can add his later in the comments 😉

ON my walk this morning – lovely August morning at 17 degrees Celsius with a fair breeze to keep me cool – I was in heaven! – I started to think about the words: holiday and vacation, and wished I could just create a blog post in my mind and send it out from there!  Maybe some day….

Defining things a bit:

Holiday: |ˈhäliˌdā|

  • noun: a day of festivity or recreation when no work is done : December 25 is an official public holiday.
  • [as adj. ] characteristic of a holiday; festive : a holiday atmosphere.• chiefly Brit. (often holidays) a vacation : I spent my summer holidays on a farm | Fred was on holiday in Spain.
  • verb [ intrans. ] :chiefly Brit.spend a holiday in a specified place : he is holidaying in Italy.
  • ORIGIN Old English hāligdæg [holy day.]

Vacation: |vāˈkā sh ən; və-|

  • noun: an extended period of recreation, esp. one spent away from home or in traveling : he took a vacation in the south of France | people come here on vacation
  • [as adj. ] a vacation home.• a fixed holiday period between terms in schools and law courts.2 the action of leaving something one previously occupied : his marriage was the reason for the vacation of his fellowship.
  • verb [ intrans. ]take a vacation : I was vacationing in Europe with my family.
  • ORIGIN late Middle English : from Old French, or from Latinvacatio(n-), from vacare ‘be unoccupied’ (see vacate ).

Pretty similar concepts.

I like the idea that vacation comes from Old French/ Latin – “to be unoccupied”.  Considering the time I spend in my brain, does that mean I actually will be vacating that cerebral space while on my break?  Probably not, but definitely exiting certain areas and visiting others in there for sure!

And holiday – a day where no work is done.  That’s where I am headed as well.

Hmmm… maybe based on the classic definitions, it’s merely whatever word you prefer to use, and then choosing your own definition of the break you are taking.

Ambiguous and Wishy-Washy that!

Well, my break will include much of nothing.  And the smatterings of doing will contrast with the extended periods of nothing.

Balance is what I am always seeking, in everything I do, and I think balance in my vacation/holiday will come pretty naturally.

I find an ever present spark of guilt gets me up and moving, and moments of self preservation offset it with a demanding whine that lets me stop and relax for at least a while!

And it takes a lot of work to take a break, whether it’s simply having friends over to visit, or actually taking time off and getting away from it all.

There are always preparations on so many levels and when camping is involved, you cannot let yourself slide into relaxation mode before the tents are set up and ready to house you for X days/weeks etc.

If you relax too quickly, and let things slide [ ie. don’t put the tarps up] that’s when the rain will hit and then everyone suffers.  But put em up right away and it’s all good!WTL used to try to interrupt the momentum that carries me through to the end of any given preparation, now he just does his own thing and keeps up, stepping aside when I am in full steam ahead mode so that he does not get run over!  As do our friends who have camped with us and are there for either set up or take down 🙂 and of course: 

XKCD comics are most funny

I am actually writing this to help in keeping the momentum flowing …

We still have things to do to get ready for our trip, including trips to see both of our parental units and errands, and last minute tying up of loose ends!  And of course Sunday Brunch before our first real journey begins!

How do you define the breaks you take to recharge, reevaluate, and rejuvenate your spirit/body/mind?

Do you find it more important to go out a do things  – try new activities, explore new places, be out and active, when you take a break from your daily life?

Or do you seek peace and quiet, finding somewhere comfortable and relaxing, where you can simply be, with no pressure to be “doing” anything at all?

What began as a journey into defining what’s a holiday and what’s a vacation, evolved into some fun with Google Images – thanks to everyone out there who tags their photos so that silly folk like me can borrow them for their blogs!

Gonna go run some errands now!

T/H

Counting down to Holidays!

Only a short while from now, it will seem that I have disappeared… for a while at least.

Occasional personal posts may appear, but for most of the month of August I’ll be avoiding anything that feels, looks, smells, or sounds like work.

And I love my work! But I love my play too, so I am looking forward to some:

"Staycation" Time,
…Camping ..er..
… I mean, CAMPING …honest!
… some Family Time!…
Serious view from the hammock!

Oh, yeah, there will be some seriously effortless Hammocktime!

There will also be some time with friends:

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and the return of my inner FanGirl  – who came to life last year for the first time!

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Some Fan Girl time - Click on the pic for more shots!

So, don’t call, don’t email, feel free to post some comments here, search through my recipes, watch some of my mini lesson video clips and remember me fondly while I’m away and generally take some time for me and @wtl to relax.!

I’ll see you in September!

Oh, and if you want to know about my many classes – check the Class info tab!

MWAH – Hugs to you all!

And check the Dancers’ News for other happenings here in the area and beyond coming up – as well as, please post any news you want to share in the comments area way down at the bottom of the page!

Morning walks…sunshine…water…moments

Hey Kids [” kids” is a positive term, reminding us to laugh and play – or act like a baby goat… your choice!]

So, I’ve been going for a morning walk every day – practically- since late January/early February and it’s been amazing.  Some mornings are tougher – cold mornings after a warm spell are killer – it just feels out of order!  I’ve also had a cold the past week so each morning has been a bit slower, but I am still getting out there.

I’ve had a lot going on lately, a lot of changes, a lot of decisions and stuff to process and think about.  The walks help me work out some of the stressful angry talk that should never be said out loud, but I can rant in my head and release it that way.

My walks last about an hour, and the first 10 minutes is often spent thinking, coffee,coffee,coffee… Then after I’ve left Bridgehead, I eat while I walk and start getting my pace set up by the time the last few dribbles of coffee are drained from my travel mug.  The next 20 minutes or so are the ranting time, organizing time, and general rehashing of whatever has been allowed to wreak havoc of my life that week/previous day or whenever!

After that, I usually hit the park nearby – either on my side of the river or the other side, depending on the route I have chosen for that morning.  When the sun shines, like today, it sparkles and dances on the surface of the river and brings me to that happy place.  And finally, I have a little while of really and truly living in the moment and seeing the beauty all around me.

I wanted to share this today as many of my friends are also dealing with a lot in their lives, and well, if this note helps you remember to find your happy place for at least 10 minutes in your busy day, then YAY…

The view almost every day!

Reconnecting with a healthier me…

Just back from my morning walk, a new habit I am forming, and I composed a fabulous blog post while walking.  It’s just too bad that I cannot dictate it while I am walking, but I’ll try to capture the essence of it to share my journey with you all!

I am one of the oodles of folks who has had issues with weight since I born.  Much of it came from being called fat as a child, and then being bigger/ taller than everyone in my grade all the way through elementary school and even into early high school.  I was never super active, but I was not completely sedentary either, as I walked or biked everywhere as a kid/teen in our small town.  I delivered newspapers as my high school job – was not into babysitting at all – and until my final year when I was allowed to use our moped, I walked the route every day.

So, throughout high school I maintained an average weight of 160 lbs.  Briefly, I went down to 145, but mostly stayed at 160.  I am 5feet 8 inches tall and I apologize to all my metric friends for the imperial measurements – but that’s what I can relate to!

And I believed I was fat. I was cool, I was smart, I had friends, and great hair and funky clothes { it was the 80s}, but in my mind, I was fat. I was not fat – I know this now!

There’s another 20 years ish to cover if I was going to relate my entire weight story, but I’ll skip ahead and gloss over to speed up the process!

My late teens into early 20’s =  in design school and poor, so basically in shape

My 20’s = emotional roller coaster ride, lots of angry but walking helped keep that in check and my weight fairly stable – still in the 160-170 range.

My late 20s, early 30s = Major emotional shift to happiness and the right marriage = UhOh – happy newlywed fat crept in during the first 3-5 years of our marriage.

2003 = Seeing myself in a dance video from a friend’s recital, and watching my “disco ball” baladi dress creep up my thighs, as I was really too big to be wearing this dress…my weight had crept up to 225 lbs. This photo is of me in December 2002, a few months before the disco ball dress incident!

I was teaching 9 belly dance classes per week and still performing when I could, but I was not stopping myself from eating the huge pots of pasta, hot turkey sandwiches and fries and so much more.  I was also not alone on this journey into the world of excess – my hubby was right there by my side!  He was up to 270 lbs when we both made the decision that things had to change.

*SNAP*

July 2nd, 2003, we embarked on our own version of the meal replacement/ calorie counting plan – the big one that has bars and shakes – cause they were on sale at our local grocery chainstore, and I still needed to have chocolate in my life!

By late December/ early January, I was back down at 170 and so pleased to finally be able to buy a pair of pants at a regular store again – as opposed to having to go into the large size stores!

This photo is from December 2003 – the layers poured off as we counted calories and reduced our portion sizes – along with using the meal replacement bars to get a good start on the process.

At that time, I decided I could actually feel comfortable enough with myself on video to produce Halyma’s Belly Dance Lesson One: Absolute Basics for Absolute Beginners. I felt great and really had so much fun doing it, that Lesson Two: Basic Moves that Move You was produced the following year! { advertising part over now}

Over the past few years, I have fallen into a new cycle of yoyo-ing with my weight and now want to explore settling into a good place and staying there.

The cycle goes something like this:

Less work = less stress = time to eat healthy, get into shape, take more care of myself…This would be the winter months mainly, with a break in August to try to counter bad habits incurred over the summer. I lose weight and feel pretty good about myself until….

More work = more stress = more take-out, less time to cook, etc.  This takes place from the late spring, through the  summer, and continues into the fall.

The Plan: Continue what I have started since January:

1-Counting calories

2-Doing it together with the hubby makes it so much easier and increases my accountability!

3- Walking more [ I am still teaching 5-6 hours per week, but I want to increase and change up my activity  options and walking I enjoy.]

4-Keep losing the pounds until I hit 160 – I have lost 13 pounds already since January 2nd, and am on track to reach my goal by mid/end of March. So yay me.

5- Stay within a 5 pound yoyo range – well, maybe 10 pounds, if I start to build more muscle – it could happen!

The main tool I am using are Lose it [Ipod Touch/Iphone app] but any tracking system that works would do it!  I have heard of Spark, and I used the MyCalorieCounter.com system for a while too – they all have good ways to encourage you to get healthy!

January 16, 2010

So, here’s where I am today: 174 pounds and walking 1 hour every morning for the past week and a half.

Thanks for reading – I hope this has given you some ideas!

Halyma

YOUR TURN:

How are you doing on finding the healthier you?

Or have you already done it and have some hints to share to keep on the path?

Feel free to leave some comments, mention any tools you are using, or what has worked for you!

TEDxOttawa – Wow, I’ll be a part of it!

Click here to go to the LIve linkIt has flown by – weeks of preparation and meetings for the main organizing team of TEDxOttawa will culminate in the all day event taking place this coming Sunday, December 6th, 2009.
When I offered myself as one of the speakers, I was prepared for a sweet but polite, “we’ll let you know.. “as they waited to see what well known, public figures, famous or at least semi-famous folk they could fill the list with before a – “thanks, but…”

Instead, I got an amazingly enthusiastic response from the committee and was blown away to be considered worthy of not only helping out [ I also offered my services as a “backstage” crew/ ” stage manager” type minion for the day] at the FIRST TEDxOttawa event EVER! And they are giving me stage time too!

AS the event is sold out, the best way to get involved is to check it out live all day long on their streaming page.  Yes, you will be a few seconds behind the real action, but you can also simply watch in your PJs, with a group of friends, or in a cafe with internet service!

The program for the day will not be pre announced, but you’ll want to start watching right away at 10 a.m. { hint, hint} and just keep ‘er running in the background all day – there will be some amazing talks I am sure!

I am really looking forward to the entire day, being part of a great new community of folk who I am enjoying getting to know!

If you watch on Sunday, leave me a “you were fabulous” comment here on my blog, kay?

<kidding!>

And this just in… Thanks @knealemann for tweeting this link where Susan Murphy [ @suzemuse] gives us some insight into the day:

CLICK HERE to see her interview on Startuplucky.com

I love the tools in my life!

I am sitting here having a quick breakfast and decided to take a moment to extroll the virtues of the various tools [ computer based stuff] that I use on a regular basis.
Why?

‘Cause I love them!
1 – Ical.

 My calendar system has been an important part of my life for as long as I can remember – even when it was a paper calendar pocket book type. Now that I use mainly my online system, the Ical feature of my Mac, I can schedule in my work outlines as well as appointments, social opps, etc – all in different colours, with alarms, reminders etc. Everyone should use their own calendar systems as efficiently as possible – check your own out and see what organizational fun you can have!

2- Caloriecount.about.com
This is an online calorie counting system that I began using in September 2008. I had fallen off the wagon of counting my calories on a daily basis sometime around December, and am choosing to get back to it now. It is a little bit time consuming, but it also tracks your activities and helps set up goals and gives you a grade for how well your food choices throughout that day have been. If you are on the ever fun food awareness journey, check it out!

3 – My ipod. and my audiobooks. I am lucky enough to be able to listen while I work! So I use Itunes as well as Audible.com to feed my addiction. And I think I need to connect with a friend out there who has offered me access to his cd library of audio books too…

4-CTV.CA
Where I can watch television episodes! We dropped cable a few years back and now the internet has given me the gift of television shows! Yay!

I also love my husband and my dog, and friends – and many other things in my life! But this morning I thought I should voalize my gratitude for the technology that I am blessed with!

What tools do you use that make your life easier???

Inspiration for Creative Folk – Where does your Genius Live?

WTL [ my hubby] and I don’t have cable, so we watch a lot of video podcasts online when we stop for our lunch or supper breaks. We are also both self employed and work from our home, so we get to spend some time during our “work days” together.

One online source of amazing entertainment, education, and information is/are Ted Talks. One website with 100s of presentations that can run from 5 minutes to an hour, these talks are video taped at conferences held throughout the world.

Some are not my cup of tea – heavy duty computer geekiness I can only bear for a short while. Sciences also must be made interesting for me to remain conscious. Artists, musicians and writers can either keep me mesmerized for hours or bore me to click to something else.

The variety available is so immense that it is really quite easy to find many of the Ted Talks that I personally find simply inspiring and awesome.

All of this introduction commentary is simple a lead up to the latest one that we watched yesterday and I totally connected with it. While I have not actually read the book with which Elizabeth Gilbert has hit her success mark, Eat, Pray, Love, I found her talk expressed exactly how I also feel about moments of creativity that seem to come from beyond.

Please  enjoy and check out more Ted Talks for your own inspiration!

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As I watched her presentation, I knew that I have always [ with brief exceptions when my “ego” gets out of hand] felt that my best works come when I am “in the zone”, “connected”, or “plugged in”.  When I am doing my job, but without forcing it, the ideas can flow with such elegance and beauty that I have always felt the source had to be beyond me.

Moments of glorious awakenings can offer glimpses into something so vast and powerful, that it is too much to try to contain in our little bodies!  I look forward to enjoying these windows into a different world with an expanded perspective!

Blessed be…

The End of one decade, Beginning of the next Era

No, I am not going to talk about the amazing moment in history that occurred yesterday in the land of our southern neighbors.

Well, maybe for a brief moment, just to give a tip of the hat to the US of A in congrats for what looks to be the beginning of a new Era in their political and emotional journey.

Here is hoping their changes are swift and painless and reflect well on the rest of the world as well!

 

ON His Big DAY!
ON His Big DAY!

 

 

Selfishly I also want to explore my own journey on this planet, this time around if I go with that reincarnation possibilities.

Today marks the end of 40 years for me.

And I am gonna celebrate for sure.

I am the youngest of my family, and am fortunate enough to speak to them all somewhat regularly. I have 8 amazing nieces and nephews that I am blessed with the chance to see on Facebook and in person to get to know them! My mom and her hubby are also within a short distance – and she’s on Facebook now too so I get poked often enough 🙂

I have a wonderful [ understatement of the year] husband who supports me in every way possible. Emotionally, he is my rock. Business wise, he is my tech guy, consultant, first line of brainstorming for new ideas. Lifewise, he is my best friend. I luv ya honey!

 

From our 10 year anniversary party Feb.2008
From our 10 year anniversary party Feb.2008

 

 

We have our little dog Boing to keep us company and make us laugh – and she does that often between the moments of insanity.

I have many, many friendships of all depths and levels of which I can only begin to extoll the virtues! Some are here and I see them multiple times a week, some are far away and I only touch base with them once ayear or less, but we have touched each other’s lives and hold a place in each other’s hearts.
And some are new, and developing acquaintances that may stay at this level or may blossom into close friendships, and that’s nice too!

I am part of a dance community that is supportive, talented and amazing – so very happy with that aspect of my life. May of these women are also part of my friendship circle!

 

At the Bay, Bayshore!
At the Bay, Bayshore!

And I love my many jobs – I get to be creative, hands on and ethereally! I get to dance, make pretty things, and try to save the planet with my endeavors.

 

I guess this is more of a thank you note to everyone around me for the many years of support, friendship, love, adoration, fangril and fanboy behavior you have all sent my way! [ Obviously kidding on those last few quips, kids!]

So, thank you all for the well wishes, laughter, and your presence in my life at this time.

I know that my new era and Barack’s are filled with promise and hope of even more greatness and potential for us and those who we touch!  Wow, that sounded a bit arrogant, but I’ll leave it in with the caveat that the potential and greatness comes from those around us as well as within ourselves.  Working together is what makes it all happen!

Blessed  be~